Amy Cuddy’s research on body language reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions. It only takes two minutes. Before you go into the next stressful evaluative situation, for two minutes, fake it, in the elevator, in a bathroom stall, at your desk behind closed doors. That’s what you want to do. Configure your brain to cope the best in that situation. Get your testosterone up. Get your cortisol down. Don’t leave that situation feeling like, oh, I didn’t show them who I am. Leave that situation feeling like, oh, I really feel like I got to say who I am and show who I am.
Watch this 20 minute TED talk below and be inspired. Don’t let fear overcome you. Fake courage and confidence but don’t just fake it until you make it, fake it until you become it.
I am going to make an effort to do this more in my everyday life. I know it works because before each interview, I am really nervous. I am thinking, they are going to realize they made a mistake by calling me in. But as soon as I get dressed up, and especially when I am wearing a pair of heels, I start to feel a little more confident. I stand tall with my shoulders back. Posture matters, so I do believe that by simply tweaking it, you will feel different. Next time, I will try the Wonder Woman stance in front of the mirror.